I do have two suggestions for places to b**ch, though.

Try out the "Should I Divorce Him" message boards at http://www.shouldidivorcehim.com/BitchinBoards/Default.aspx

I have a blog called My Verbally Abusive Marriage located at 36 Maybe you’ll find some resonance with what you’re experiencing with me and my readers that will help you continually convince yourself that you are not the crazy one! That "crazy" feeling may not go away for awhile, especially if you’re going to court.

And then there’s Patricia Evan’s message boards at http://www.verbalabuse.com. I’m a member of her boards, and you’ll find a LOT of support there, including people who have completed divorce proceedings with their abusive spouses.

Also, Martha Trowbridge Radio (recently launched) already has a show that may help you further understand and deal with your husband called "It’s Not All in Your Mind, Dear". Check it out at http://www.marthatrowbridgeradio.org/blog/the-crazy-making-husband-radio-show/steve-becker-lcsw-its-not-all-in-your-mind-dear/

SEEING the problem is a lot easier than DEALING with the problem, isn’t it? Hang in there – I’m rooting for you.
References :
http://www.shouldidivorcehim.com/BitchinBoards/Default.aspx
http://www.verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/
http://www.verbalabuse.com
http://www.marthatrowbridgeradio.org/blog/the-crazy-making-husband-radio-show/steve-becker-lcsw-its-not-all-in-your-mind-dear/

God be with you!!!
References :

here are some forums you can join:
http://www.cafemom.com/profile/register_landing.php?cb_id=divorce&topic=divorce&utm_source=google&utm_medium=sem&utm_content=2464785355&utm_campaign=relationships&utm_term=women%20divorce%20forums&p_id=low&sendroicid=09a9dbc9-bf40-488e-ab85-e0d6dc7eeacd&sendroiad=2464785355&sendroikwd=women+divorce+forums&gclid=CIS0upTO05sCFQEhDQodkzAOKw

http://www.womandivorcesupport.com/

http://www.divorcesupport.com/ubbthreads/postlist.php/Cat/0/Board/Womens

hope this helps!!!
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I am married to a man who has moved us into his mothers house because he doesn’t want to go to work, then uses excuses about how he DOES want to go to work, and that it’s his employers fault for allowing him to take so much time off!

I have two kids and I am tired of waiting around for my husband to get it together. I need to make a life of my own!

He is a fool, he had it all. A doting wife, a house, loving kids, a UNION job. But nothing is ever suiting to him so he sees fit to throw it all away. He seems like he might finally be coming around, but after 7 years of his crap- I’m sooo ready to move on. I need somewhere to go where I can get all of this stuff off my chest, and do a little b****ing. I wish I had kept a diary of some of the stuff he’s pulled, like making me ride my bike home because he didn’t want to come bring our kids to come pick me up and wanted to leave them with a "friend" who he knew all of a couple of weeks. Oh, and here’s this gem- our doctor had to pull me in the office and tell me that if I couldn’t get my husband to shower, he wouldn’t be able to see him anymore! And now sits there and tells me how he’s such a great guy. He makes me crazy! Literally he has had me feeling like a crazy psycho because I expect him to work and put the kids to bed in proper attire with sheets on their beds! I am over it!

Sorry to rant, but man I have to find a way out of this situation. So please, if you know of a good website to check out pass it on to me.
KellieJo- I didn’t need directions to sites that are just trying to sell me books. Thanks anyway though.